DAY ONE: July 8th

physical Wellness


Today is simple, all we are doing is taking a good look in the mirror! For me this took about 30 minutes, as I listened to “Reflection” sung by Christina Aguilera on repeat lol. I started with the top of my hair to the bottom of my  toes. I stood in the mirror in my birthday suite and took a good, long, hard look at ME. 

I tried to set the tone by lightning some candelas and dimming the lights…then I realized that I couldn’t really see myself and turned on my mega light to get the full effect. I cleaned my double sided mirror spotless and turned on my song….

Some of my thoughts during this physical assessment  process

My cheeks… no my whole face is so round, I look so young,  the complexion of my skin makes me proud, motherhood gave me dark circles under my eyes, I remember the fight that caused the scars on my face, I want invisalign for this overbite, loving my pearly whites, my shoulder tattoo makes me proud, I think its kinda dope how you can see blonde hair on my arms in the light, giving birth has allowed me to love my body even if its not exactly in ideal shape, stretch marks and all,   being preggo disrespected the “girls” in a way I was not aware was possible, Sit ups will become apart of this journey,I like the way my hands look, but not the way they operate, my pinky is always sticking out when I hold things and my thumbs curve backwards,  my legs are like tree stumps, I remember being called kankals for having such fat ankles….it hurt at the time but its kinda funny now lol, my big toe is long but I have cute feet!

This was one of my fav singers back in middle school (don’t hate on Ms. Tina or Mulan, just listen to the lyrics)

BONUS*: Find a private place and feel yourself…not physically lol. But play a song that turns you up and get it in. Preferably this should also be done in the mirror but if not thats ok. The point is to just get in your zone and feel your self like my boy B.o.b. 


  • Mirror
  • YOU
  • Music

QUESTIONS:  Did you notice anything you never noticed before, or forgot about, did anything surprise you? Were there more positive or negative things that you thought about? What lasting impression of your self are you left with? 

Now its your turn…I see you lookin with ya lookin (self) 🙂  



WARNING: An epidemic of stunters has been issued!!!

lol ok,  so I was listening to pandora wile cleaning my kitchen and the throwback “Still Fly” came on and it took me back to a conversation my mother and I had not too long ago on the issue of people having caviar taste on a tuna fish budget. It seems like its become the norm, for especially the black community to have the  flyist nails, shoes, hair, fit and whatever other  material possession they desire to flaunt- Regardless of their financial situation.

I think its more of a mentality thing rather then a financial literacy thing. I could go on and on about why, how and where, I believe this stems from ….but Ill save that for some other post.

WIthout further adieu…The jam back in 02 (smh)

Are you a perpetrator or witness of this plague?



Im still getting use to this blogging thing…I think I over think my potential post which results in no post at all 😦 So here is something light for the overdue.



Todays Black Girl who Rocks is Ms. Ella Varner. When asked during an interview about something surprising thing that people don’t know about her she revealed that she had been severely bullied. Saying that “people were mean to me most of my life and told me that I sucked”. Her way of dealing with it was to go home and write songs .

“So Fly” is one of my songs where I wrote about an actual situation where I was never going to get this guy’s attention because I didn’t look a certain way at the time. Since that song I have lost weight but I feel like a song like that, everybody, not just women, can relate to. Feeling like you’re not enough no matter what size you are. So if people picked on me or called me fat, I would just make up songs about it.

For all the brown beauties that felt like their looks feel short! Here’s to you boo, because there’s comfort in feeling like your not alone.

Can you relate??



This video sums up my final decision beautifully!

So as necessary as it is for me to be social media savvy or up on my current events, it is just something that does not come natural to me. So like most virtual trends… I was late on the red equal sign trend and had to do some searching and ask a fb friend what it was all about.

After being enlightened I contemplated on jumping on the bandwagon. Initially my inner rebellious nature to conformity said Hell No! My impulse justification declared that my love is not defined by the the courts, marriage is nothing but an institution and …well, you know how the rest of the rant goes.

But after further reflection I concluded that I would change my profile pic because:

  1. This is NOT about love but about benefits, rights, and privileges
  2. This IS a legit form of activism for my generation
  3. This is a cause that will probably affect me (depending on who I marry…I’ve been labeled a “pansexual”)
  4. This is my way of using my voice to contribute to a conversation that needs to be discussed

And yes this is the regular process I go through when attempting to change my profile picture lol


Did you change your pic, why or why not?



I was amongst the Girl Treck Madison Chapter group that walked 100 minutes in the cold and rain. Because if she could walk for FREEDOM, we can walk for better HEALTH.

I almost didn’t go to the event because of the weather and the fact that my walking partners were MIA…  But  I am so glad I did!

This year my life has taken a new path to discover my best self and live my best life… As I walked alone I dint feel lonely, instead I felt a sense of independence and strength. I was proud of myself for staying committed to a cause that is important to me. I completed the 100 minutes with a sense of pride knowing that I have it in me to walk confidently in my purpose even if no one is by my side.

    Things can change when black women walk together: We Are Harriet!

Much ♥,