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What's your contribution to the world?

So if you know me you know I don’t have cable (because I don’t want cable) and I live for Netflix!

One of my first favs was ” A Good Day to be Black and Sexy” The film explores the subject of sexuality and relationships within the black community in a collection of six vignettes.

But what I remember most is a scene where a young dark chocolate girl poses the question “Whats your contribution to the world” to this little dusty boy trying to push up on her.

Those powerful words have stayed with me for years. As I travel along through my journey of life I am committed to consciously discovering and living out my purpose!

So I ask you…”whats your contribution”?

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TBT: Little Me

This is one of my favorite pics of me…You cant see, but I’m wearing this fly sailor jumper and giving plenty personality as I crossed my legs with my hand on my hip!

This throwback inspired some reflection, as I am faced with the reality that my daughter is about to turn ONE. Along with the fact that my high school teachers are currently my employees (crazy weird). Whoever created the saying “time flies” I just want you to know that that’s a serious understatement!

When I look back, I’m thankful that I’m not who I was, blessed for who I am and grateful that the best me is yet to be!

Taking time to reflect and analyze my life, has been transformative in my growth. I am determined to not live my life in vain. I try not to value things as good or bad, but just as experiences that shape my understanding of life …As long as I am open to receiving them.

What was your last reflection about?

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So today was a chill normal day…Wished my brother a happy 26th B-day. Purchased natural hair dolls for my daughters b-day. Worked my lovely 9-5 then headed to my sisters for a quick hair touch up before some spiritual enlightenment (aka bible study).

While I was at my sissies I was talking to my niece about her first day of 1st grade. She was telling me that she was the only brown girl in her class and that she wanted to be white 😦

In a seemingly unsuccessful brief attempt, I tried to explain to her that her skin was beautiful because it has history, it had a story and its a blessing to not look like everyone else.

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It was a huge reminder of how important SELF LOVE education is …and how its never to early to start!

SN: On a lighter note…This post helps me rationalize spending way to much on them gorgeous natural hair dolls for my mini me lbs.

What makes your brown beautiful?? 

First Day Photo

Sooo I started working at my old high school in June and its been crazy surreal having my old teachers as co-workers. It puts time into perspective…Seems like just yesterday I was a student in these same hallways stressin about what I would wear for the first day.

Even though I wasn’t worried about my fit, I did have new hair I was excited about 🙂 I had my sister do these sexy lock extensions I have been wanting forever. I got them as a protective style for my fro I’ve been neglecting. BUT I’m kind of in love and thinking about making them permeant …just a bit smaller.

For everyone that started school today or tomorrow I hope you have a great first week!

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Lorax For Learning

ACT (my daughters initials) and I usually use our saturday mornings to snuggle up and watch a movie. Today’s choice was Dr. Seuse The Lorax! Which can be used to help kids appreciate the environment.

Im excited to be able to use our morning movies as teaching tools when she is able to comprehend. If she was older I would plan for us to take a bike rid in the Arboretum or have lunch at picknick point or visit Olbrich Gardens and see the butterfly exhibit. To continue the lesson of appreciating our beloved mother earth.

Though I am itching to get out of this city, I must admit that I have grown to appreciate it’s beauty. Since ACT is not quite ready to grasp all of that, todays outdoor activities will consist of a trip to the Will Street co-op for mommy. Be on the look out for our exciting purchases 🙂

Flowers for Friday

Today was lovely to say the least … for no particular reason really!

Worked a full day, Its still super weirdo to be working at my old high-school. I discovered Monday was labor day! Found out that white people can also be displeased with the fact they also work with almost all white people. (not hate, just appreciate diversity).

My mother invited ACT (my daughters initials) and I to an event called Dane Dances, which is suppose to be live music on the roof top of this beautiful building with an amazballs view…But due to the possibility of rain the event was moved in doors.

WEAK…So we had a photo opp outside and called it a day….quite a lovely day might I add 🙂

Dream Boards are WACK

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If your like me, I was in LOVE with dream boards before I realized they were only part of the process. In order to make a dream reality, we must set goals!

Goals are essentially an action plan to make your dreams come true

I learned this from Ms. Shanell cooper Sykes on her AMAZING “Secrets of Dreamer” 7 day journey. Let her tell you in her own words why exactly vision boards are useless!!!! 

Here are some pics of my F.O.C.U.S board ….make your own so you can Follow On Course Until Successful 🙂

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My Focus board is on top of my 2012 vision board in my room to remind me every morning and night to stay focused!

 Feel free to ask me details about my board or help getting started with your own

The Journey: Reflection

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Self Reflection: Internal examination

Task: Find a quite space, set the mood so that you can center your energy (candles, lighting, music) and answer the following questions honestly, for your self!

Purpose:  Access your current state…where you are right now, at the beginning of your love journey

Tools: something to document your answers

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

“Memories Back Then”

Commin back from  horseback ridding with 20 plus church kids yesterday, I felt both tired and youthful!

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All I wanted to do when I got home was watch a movie and relax…I thought about watching my fav coming of age storyGrease” but decided to check out Netflix instead. I ended up watching two rights of passage movies by chance.

The first was “lol” and the other was “Girl in progress

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Both films took me back to my high-school days and made me a lil grateful to be past that confusing period in my life… but It also made me feel for my youngness who are in the midst of that very intense, important and impact-full time.  

The Problem 

I believe were in a day in age where especially young black girls aren’t able to fully experience and grow from this time because they have too many adult issues that they are dealing with….This often seems to be the manifestation of their parents lacking the very thing they are depriving their children from (love, attention, stability, security, reassurance, support,…)

The Result

A family cycle that leads to a life long journey of trying to fill a void with temporary solutions. After the movie I was cleaning listening to to my pandora and this very relevant song came on and inspired this post.

*Explicit Context*

“Then one day I just asked her
“Why you always give your ass up?
I mean damn these hoes get paid
All you do is get laid, this shit don’t add up.”
She said, “Tip, all I wanna do is feel love
Even if I know it ain’t real love
Even if I know a n**** only finna hit it
And then never call back, I still f***” 

The Solution

Commit to knowing the-self and loving the-self …Easier said then done right??? Well from what I hear nothing worth having comes easy.

ARE YOU WORTH IT???  If so join me on the “Self -Love Journey“! 

 Much 

PhenoMeJMarie