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What's your contribution to the world?

So if you know me you know I don’t have cable (because I don’t want cable) and I live for Netflix!

One of my first favs was ” A Good Day to be Black and Sexy” The film explores the subject of sexuality and relationships within the black community in a collection of six vignettes.

But what I remember most is a scene where a young dark chocolate girl poses the question “Whats your contribution to the world” to this little dusty boy trying to push up on her.

Those powerful words have stayed with me for years. As I travel along through my journey of life I am committed to consciously discovering and living out my purpose!

So I ask you…”whats your contribution”?

TBT: Little Me

This is one of my favorite pics of me…You cant see, but I’m wearing this fly sailor jumper and giving plenty personality as I crossed my legs with my hand on my hip!

This throwback inspired some reflection, as I am faced with the reality that my daughter is about to turn ONE. Along with the fact that my high school teachers are currently my employees (crazy weird). Whoever created the saying “time flies” I just want you to know that that’s a serious understatement!

When I look back, I’m thankful that I’m not who I was, blessed for who I am and grateful that the best me is yet to be!

Taking time to reflect and analyze my life, has been transformative in my growth. I am determined to not live my life in vain. I try not to value things as good or bad, but just as experiences that shape my understanding of life …As long as I am open to receiving them.

What was your last reflection about?

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So today was a chill normal day…Wished my brother a happy 26th B-day. Purchased natural hair dolls for my daughters b-day. Worked my lovely 9-5 then headed to my sisters for a quick hair touch up before some spiritual enlightenment (aka bible study).

While I was at my sissies I was talking to my niece about her first day of 1st grade. She was telling me that she was the only brown girl in her class and that she wanted to be white 😦

In a seemingly unsuccessful brief attempt, I tried to explain to her that her skin was beautiful because it has history, it had a story and its a blessing to not look like everyone else.

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It was a huge reminder of how important SELF LOVE education is …and how its never to early to start!

SN: On a lighter note…This post helps me rationalize spending way to much on them gorgeous natural hair dolls for my mini me lbs.

What makes your brown beautiful?? 

First Day Photo

Sooo I started working at my old high school in June and its been crazy surreal having my old teachers as co-workers. It puts time into perspective…Seems like just yesterday I was a student in these same hallways stressin about what I would wear for the first day.

Even though I wasn’t worried about my fit, I did have new hair I was excited about 🙂 I had my sister do these sexy lock extensions I have been wanting forever. I got them as a protective style for my fro I’ve been neglecting. BUT I’m kind of in love and thinking about making them permeant …just a bit smaller.

For everyone that started school today or tomorrow I hope you have a great first week!

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Flowers for Friday

Today was lovely to say the least … for no particular reason really!

Worked a full day, Its still super weirdo to be working at my old high-school. I discovered Monday was labor day! Found out that white people can also be displeased with the fact they also work with almost all white people. (not hate, just appreciate diversity).

My mother invited ACT (my daughters initials) and I to an event called Dane Dances, which is suppose to be live music on the roof top of this beautiful building with an amazballs view…But due to the possibility of rain the event was moved in doors.

WEAK…So we had a photo opp outside and called it a day….quite a lovely day might I add 🙂

Dream Boards are WACK

My 2012 Vision Boardvision board

If your like me, I was in LOVE with dream boards before I realized they were only part of the process. In order to make a dream reality, we must set goals!

Goals are essentially an action plan to make your dreams come true

I learned this from Ms. Shanell cooper Sykes on her AMAZING “Secrets of Dreamer” 7 day journey. Let her tell you in her own words why exactly vision boards are useless!!!! 

Here are some pics of my F.O.C.U.S board ….make your own so you can Follow On Course Until Successful 🙂

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My Focus board is on top of my 2012 vision board in my room to remind me every morning and night to stay focused!

 Feel free to ask me details about my board or help getting started with your own

The Journey: Reflection

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Self Reflection: Internal examination

Task: Find a quite space, set the mood so that you can center your energy (candles, lighting, music) and answer the following questions honestly, for your self!

Purpose:  Access your current state…where you are right now, at the beginning of your love journey

Tools: something to document your answers

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

Self love journey

In the words of my girl India “Life is a journey not a destination” 

I last shared about how my “30 Day Self love Challenge ”  was starting to contradict its purpose of obtaining wellness…(balance) to my life! So I did some reflecting and the result manifested “The Journey”

The Journey

 Everyday I will send you a video explaining the next step in the journey. This will provide you with enough options to know what works for you!

Assessment 

1:What is Self- love

2 : Reflect on the current you

3. Assessing your current and ideal life balance

4 : Analyze your life baggage

5. My God

Adjust

5.Make an action map “A goal is a dreams with an action plan”

6. Baggage to blessings

6.Our language

7. Values and Beliefs

8: Practice Accountability

Apply

9. Practice gratefulness (Spiritual tools)

10. Pay attention (Purpose tools 110)

11. Affirm yourself: (Daily mantras)

12. Reflection on process (Share thoughts from the journey)

13. *FOCUS Plan*

The Journey: Guidelines 

  1. You can start at any time (If you join on late just look at old videos and go at your own pace)
  2. Ask for help if you don’t understand something,
  3. Pay attention to what resonates with  you and what dosent…question why?
  4. If  for whatever catastrophic reason you  miss a day or just cant complete a day,  continue on the journey
  5. Adapt the journey to your lifestyle

Reflection 1: “Lift Off”

WEEK ONE: ASSESSMENT   

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Alright Alright Alright (in my kevin heart voice lol) 

As day one comes to a close,  its time to REFLECT… you started off the day allowing yourself to simply observe YOU. Meaning you were conscious of the things you said, did, heard, and  thought in a very observant way. 

For example:  In the meeting this morning you made a “hmm” sound after learning that apparently adults learn by reflection. The significance was  that it was an authentic, automatic response to information that related to the core of what drives you (Wellness, learning styles, 30 day challenge…its a coincidence that this was a pretty relevant example…or is it? 🙂

That may seem like a super minimal detail in the day, BUT  the point is to PAY ATTENTION, like foreal foreal. We are so good at being luke warm about everything that it becomes the norm. To help me out today I adopted a mantra for this journey to keep my eye on the prize

“You are  Extraordinary” Not Ordinary 

OH YEAH!  So I call Day 1 “Lift Off” because its one of the songs that had me feeling myself during todays * Bonus life work…plus its kinda symbolic of the beginning of this journey!

 Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

 Point A (where we are right now)

♥ Wellness Wheels (btw)

The pursuit of happiness!

This is how my joint is looking right now …well not exactly, but it’s not balanced! The goal of  living well is to get each area as balanced as possible- meaning no area is sacrificed for another. (The areas can be tweaked to fit your life)

 

Point B (Where we want to be)

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THIS is what we are all really striving for….This is what the pursuit of happiness looks like. For the next 30 days I am going to start small on making adjustments in my life to help me ultimately achieve and maintain a healthy balanced life. Join me if you dare, the more the merrier!

*SN. “The Pursuit of Happyness” Is one of my favorite movies by the way

Whats your wellness wheel looking like? 

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie