This is one of my favorite pics of me…You cant see, but I’m wearing this fly sailor jumper and giving plenty personality as I crossed my legs with my hand on my hip!
This throwback inspired some reflection, as I am faced with the reality that my daughter is about to turn ONE. Along with the fact that my high school teachers are currently my employees (crazy weird). Whoever created the saying “time flies” I just want you to know that that’s a serious understatement!
When I look back, I’m thankful that I’m not who I was, blessed for who I am and grateful that the best me is yet to be!
Taking time to reflect and analyze my life, has been transformative in my growth. I am determined to not live my life in vain. I try not to value things as good or bad, but just as experiences that shape my understanding of life …As long as I am open to receiving them.
What was your last reflection about?
So today was a chill normal day…Wished my brother a happy 26th B-day. Purchased natural hair dolls for my daughters b-day. Worked my lovely 9-5 then headed to my sisters for a quick hair touch up before some spiritual enlightenment (aka bible study).
While I was at my sissies I was talking to my niece about her first day of 1st grade. She was telling me that she was the only brown girl in her class and that she wanted to be white 😦
In a seemingly unsuccessful brief attempt, I tried to explain to her that her skin was beautiful because it has history, it had a story and its a blessing to not look like everyone else.
It was a huge reminder of how important SELF LOVE education is …and how its never to early to start!
SN: On a lighter note…This post helps me rationalize spending way to much on them gorgeous natural hair dolls for my mini me lbs.
What makes your brown beautiful??
Sooo I started working at my old high school in June and its been crazy surreal having my old teachers as co-workers. It puts time into perspective…Seems like just yesterday I was a student in these same hallways stressin about what I would wear for the first day.
Even though I wasn’t worried about my fit, I did have new hair I was excited about 🙂 I had my sister do these sexy lock extensions I have been wanting forever. I got them as a protective style for my fro I’ve been neglecting. BUT I’m kind of in love and thinking about making them permeant …just a bit smaller.
For everyone that started school today or tomorrow I hope you have a great first week!
In the words of my girl India “Life is a journey not a destination”
I last shared about how my “30 Day Self love Challenge ” was starting to contradict its purpose of obtaining wellness…(balance) to my life! So I did some reflecting and the result manifested “The Journey”
Everyday I will send you a video explaining the next step in the journey. This will provide you with enough options to know what works for you!
1:What is Self- love
2 : Reflect on the current you
3. Assessing your current and ideal life balance
4 : Analyze your life baggage
5. My God
5.Make an action map “A goal is a dreams with an action plan”
6. Baggage to blessings
7. Values and Beliefs
8: Practice Accountability
9. Practice gratefulness (Spiritual tools)
10. Pay attention (Purpose tools 110)
11. Affirm yourself: (Daily mantras)
12. Reflection on process (Share thoughts from the journey)
13. *FOCUS Plan*
The Journey: Guidelines
- You can start at any time (If you join on late just look at old videos and go at your own pace)
- Ask for help if you don’t understand something,
- Pay attention to what resonates with you and what dosent…question why?
- If for whatever catastrophic reason you miss a day or just cant complete a day, continue on the journey
- Adapt the journey to your lifestyle
So today I decided I’m staring this 30 Day Challenge! The point is to hold me accountable to being the best example I can be for my daughter. Through my passion for motivating youth, I stress that knowing and being your best self is the golden rule to life….And uh since thats a pretty strong claim to make, I need to commit to practicing what I preach!
BOOT CAMP TIME BABY!!!
Pheno’s 30 Day Challenge (P3DC):
- Setting Goals using the wellness wheel to maintain balance
- Using life as a classroom
- Constant assessment
- Daily reflection
- Overal evaluation
Thats like the super basic version…But
if WHEN completed, the results will be revolutionary in my life… Especially when I plan to do this every other month for at least the next 365 days! To really understand what Im talking about just get to know me, as I get to know me for the next 30!
P3DC Begins (last nights impromptu video lol) …Don’t judge 🙂
I was feeling pretty dang on good Monday…Considering the fact that it was my first day back to work after a 10 day vacation.
I felt so good that my inner lyricist was inspired, and as I sported my Afro I was reminiscent of “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl” (Created flow on Monday, “video shoot” was on Tuesday, posted blog on wed…hence no fro)
Yes I Rocks that super natural
I see you checkin my physical
I say I’m more type spiritual, like lyrical for ya melodic soul
I know that I’m eccentric, rebellious, magnificent
Straight lovin this Midwestern chick with southern roots
Huxtables, 2 parents and a stable roof
Ms. Evileen turned to a queen
lookin back the piece’s started con-nec-ting
my past is packed, so do stay tuned
Cuz Please belive Ms. pheno-Me’s dreams will come true!
Love it or hate it its all for fun, now you know what goes through my mind on my lunch breaks 🙂
Let me hear some of you hidden flows… Dont be Scured
Im still getting use to this blogging thing…I think I over think my potential post which results in no post at all 😦 So here is something light for the overdue.
Todays Black Girl who Rocks is Ms. Ella Varner. When asked during an interview about something surprising thing that people don’t know about her she revealed that she had been severely bullied. Saying that “people were mean to me most of my life and told me that I sucked”. Her way of dealing with it was to go home and write songs .
“So Fly” is one of my songs where I wrote about an actual situation where I was never going to get this guy’s attention because I didn’t look a certain way at the time. Since that song I have lost weight but I feel like a song like that, everybody, not just women, can relate to. Feeling like you’re not enough no matter what size you are. So if people picked on me or called me fat, I would just make up songs about it.
For all the brown beauties that felt like their looks feel short! Here’s to you boo, because there’s comfort in feeling like your not alone.
Can you relate??
This discovery just gave me LIFE!!!
Natural Girls & Women United customizes natural hair dolls ranging from about $40- $140.
As a new mommy to a baby girl, it makes my heart smile to know that my Alana can and will (as soon as they lift the hold on orders) have dolls that represent her culture in an authentic way.
Being a brown beauty, in a white dominated society, it is no doubt challenging and definitely affects us in both a subconscious and conscious way. I college, I remember watching “A Girl like Me“, a video made by Kiri Davis in 2005 where she revisits the experiment done by Keeneth Clark in the 1940s. In the experiment African-American children were asked to choose between black or white dolls and explain their preference.
A few days ago the gorgeous brown beauty Chime Edwards re-conducted this experiment relating it to natural hair, rather then skin color. She used a natural-haired doll and a straight-haired doll to see which doll’s hair type a group of Black children preferred.
All of the experiments are intriguing, but none of the results are surprising…Welcome to the reality we live in. Natural Girls & Women United provides an opportunity for brown beauties to embrace their sun kissed skin, and tangled tresses without doubt that they are totally DOPE!
Here’s one for the team! Keep ya head up and your hair nappy my lovely Brown Beauties