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The Pursuit of “Successful Happiness”

The Goal

Is it  happiness or “successful happiness“that I am  really on the pursuit of?

Am I  unsuccessfully pursing a shared dream…a social idea… a cultural vision, of happiness…?

Could individualizing success, clarify my journey and increase the outcome of achieving my tailored pursuit?

 

 

 If successful happiness is being successful  because your happy…What brings you joy? 

Till next time

One Love 

PhenoMeJMarie

The Journey: Reflection

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Self Reflection: Internal examination

Task: Find a quite space, set the mood so that you can center your energy (candles, lighting, music) and answer the following questions honestly, for your self!

Purpose:  Access your current state…where you are right now, at the beginning of your love journey

Tools: something to document your answers

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

Self love journey

In the words of my girl India “Life is a journey not a destination” 

I last shared about how my “30 Day Self love Challenge ”  was starting to contradict its purpose of obtaining wellness…(balance) to my life! So I did some reflecting and the result manifested “The Journey”

The Journey

 Everyday I will send you a video explaining the next step in the journey. This will provide you with enough options to know what works for you!

Assessment 

1:What is Self- love

2 : Reflect on the current you

3. Assessing your current and ideal life balance

4 : Analyze your life baggage

5. My God

Adjust

5.Make an action map “A goal is a dreams with an action plan”

6. Baggage to blessings

6.Our language

7. Values and Beliefs

8: Practice Accountability

Apply

9. Practice gratefulness (Spiritual tools)

10. Pay attention (Purpose tools 110)

11. Affirm yourself: (Daily mantras)

12. Reflection on process (Share thoughts from the journey)

13. *FOCUS Plan*

The Journey: Guidelines 

  1. You can start at any time (If you join on late just look at old videos and go at your own pace)
  2. Ask for help if you don’t understand something,
  3. Pay attention to what resonates with  you and what dosent…question why?
  4. If  for whatever catastrophic reason you  miss a day or just cant complete a day,  continue on the journey
  5. Adapt the journey to your lifestyle

“Memories Back Then”

Commin back from  horseback ridding with 20 plus church kids yesterday, I felt both tired and youthful!

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All I wanted to do when I got home was watch a movie and relax…I thought about watching my fav coming of age storyGrease” but decided to check out Netflix instead. I ended up watching two rights of passage movies by chance.

The first was “lol” and the other was “Girl in progress

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Both films took me back to my high-school days and made me a lil grateful to be past that confusing period in my life… but It also made me feel for my youngness who are in the midst of that very intense, important and impact-full time.  

The Problem 

I believe were in a day in age where especially young black girls aren’t able to fully experience and grow from this time because they have too many adult issues that they are dealing with….This often seems to be the manifestation of their parents lacking the very thing they are depriving their children from (love, attention, stability, security, reassurance, support,…)

The Result

A family cycle that leads to a life long journey of trying to fill a void with temporary solutions. After the movie I was cleaning listening to to my pandora and this very relevant song came on and inspired this post.

*Explicit Context*

“Then one day I just asked her
“Why you always give your ass up?
I mean damn these hoes get paid
All you do is get laid, this shit don’t add up.”
She said, “Tip, all I wanna do is feel love
Even if I know it ain’t real love
Even if I know a n**** only finna hit it
And then never call back, I still f***” 

The Solution

Commit to knowing the-self and loving the-self …Easier said then done right??? Well from what I hear nothing worth having comes easy.

ARE YOU WORTH IT???  If so join me on the “Self -Love Journey“! 

 Much 

PhenoMeJMarie