Intelectual

What is Self-Love

Self-Love????

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Loving oneself means caring about oneself, taking responsibility for oneself, respecting oneself, and knowing oneself.  In order to be able to truly love another person, a person needs first to love oneself in this way!

In my own words

Self love vs pampering:

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

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Self love journey

In the words of my girl India “Life is a journey not a destination” 

I last shared about how my “30 Day Self love Challenge ”  was starting to contradict its purpose of obtaining wellness…(balance) to my life! So I did some reflecting and the result manifested “The Journey”

The Journey

 Everyday I will send you a video explaining the next step in the journey. This will provide you with enough options to know what works for you!

Assessment 

1:What is Self- love

2 : Reflect on the current you

3. Assessing your current and ideal life balance

4 : Analyze your life baggage

5. My God

Adjust

5.Make an action map “A goal is a dreams with an action plan”

6. Baggage to blessings

6.Our language

7. Values and Beliefs

8: Practice Accountability

Apply

9. Practice gratefulness (Spiritual tools)

10. Pay attention (Purpose tools 110)

11. Affirm yourself: (Daily mantras)

12. Reflection on process (Share thoughts from the journey)

13. *FOCUS Plan*

The Journey: Guidelines 

  1. You can start at any time (If you join on late just look at old videos and go at your own pace)
  2. Ask for help if you don’t understand something,
  3. Pay attention to what resonates with  you and what dosent…question why?
  4. If  for whatever catastrophic reason you  miss a day or just cant complete a day,  continue on the journey
  5. Adapt the journey to your lifestyle

 Point A (where we are right now)

♥ Wellness Wheels (btw)

The pursuit of happiness!

This is how my joint is looking right now …well not exactly, but it’s not balanced! The goal of  living well is to get each area as balanced as possible- meaning no area is sacrificed for another. (The areas can be tweaked to fit your life)

 

Point B (Where we want to be)

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THIS is what we are all really striving for….This is what the pursuit of happiness looks like. For the next 30 days I am going to start small on making adjustments in my life to help me ultimately achieve and maintain a healthy balanced life. Join me if you dare, the more the merrier!

*SN. “The Pursuit of Happyness” Is one of my favorite movies by the way

Whats your wellness wheel looking like? 

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

Niggers & Blessings in 2013

Disclaimer:  I am blatantly using the N word to make a point. Not meant to offend but to educate

So hear me out…

Yesterday was a beautiful day! I was a proud youth leader as the kids in my church killed the flash Mobb performance, dancing to Yolanda Adams “I Believe” for youth day. And instead of a sermon, we had Guy, who is a refugee from Darfuri speak to the congregation about his experience.

So to say the least I was in a pretty positive place after leaving service…  About 2 minutes later I was called a “Nigger” for the first time in my 24 years of life .

I wasn’t mad though…I was more like, really my dude! I understand you yelling “watch the sign” but why you have to add “NIGGER” to the end of the sentence? How is that even relevant to my driving ability?? (Replay of my exact thoughts)

As I continued to drive home I figured I guess I was lucky for it taking this long for the word to be directed specifically to me.  Still taken aback I wondered… What does it mean to be called a Nigger  in 2013? … While the First family is currently Black!?!

           It means covert racism and mental slavery is some genius ish! And we need to open our eyes before we end up back in time!

To be called a Nigger in 2013 was a blessing for me because …

  1. It touched a nerve and evoked an emotion
  2. It sent a message to my soul saying this is not right
  3. It motivated me to act as a way of responding
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Actually hearing the word NIGGER… brought home the idea that mental slavery is so00 much more dangerous then being slaves in the field. It blinds us from the reality of our current situation and makes us complacent, content and comfortable with the uncomfortable.  Its why a majority of the black community is surviving instead of living.

It’s time we free ourselves from brokenness, illiteracy, systems, and dysfunctional family cycles.  Educate ourselves so we can be advocates for our community and let go of that Government “assistance” that has become our modern day master!

I’m tankful that white man felt compelled to call me a Nigger.  What homeboy didn’t know, was that I’m not your average N*****! Though he didn’t make me angry, he did fuel me to fulfill my purpose,  in educating these brown beauties out here that we STILL have work to do and something to prove!

We have to prove that…

  1. Our ancestors did not get jailed, beat, abused, raped and killed in vain
  2. We are capable of all things & no weapon formed against us shall prosper
  3. Our mind can beat their words if we are committed to educating it
  4. We deserve the best and we wont settle for less when it comes to justice

So thank you Mr. White man,  I was getting a little to comfortable in this utopian, liberal facade called Madison Wisconsin. I promise you every brown girl that crosses my path will have an opportunity to be apart of the REVOLUTION…And believe it will not be televised.

Run tell that!

When was the first time you were called the N word?

This video sums up my final decision beautifully!

So as necessary as it is for me to be social media savvy or up on my current events, it is just something that does not come natural to me. So like most virtual trends… I was late on the red equal sign trend and had to do some searching and ask a fb friend what it was all about.

After being enlightened I contemplated on jumping on the bandwagon. Initially my inner rebellious nature to conformity said Hell No! My impulse justification declared that my love is not defined by the the courts, marriage is nothing but an institution and …well, you know how the rest of the rant goes.

But after further reflection I concluded that I would change my profile pic because:

  1. This is NOT about love but about benefits, rights, and privileges
  2. This IS a legit form of activism for my generation
  3. This is a cause that will probably affect me (depending on who I marry…I’ve been labeled a “pansexual”)
  4. This is my way of using my voice to contribute to a conversation that needs to be discussed

And yes this is the regular process I go through when attempting to change my profile picture lol

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Did you change your pic, why or why not?

Much

PhenoMeJMarie