Black Girls who Rock (BGR)

The Pursuit of “Successful Happiness”

The Goal

Is it  happiness or “successful happiness“that I am  really on the pursuit of?

Am I  unsuccessfully pursing a shared dream…a social idea… a cultural vision, of happiness…?

Could individualizing success, clarify my journey and increase the outcome of achieving my tailored pursuit?

 

 

 If successful happiness is being successful  because your happy…What brings you joy? 

Till next time

One Love 

PhenoMeJMarie

TBT: Little Me

This is one of my favorite pics of me…You cant see, but I’m wearing this fly sailor jumper and giving plenty personality as I crossed my legs with my hand on my hip!

This throwback inspired some reflection, as I am faced with the reality that my daughter is about to turn ONE. Along with the fact that my high school teachers are currently my employees (crazy weird). Whoever created the saying “time flies” I just want you to know that that’s a serious understatement!

When I look back, I’m thankful that I’m not who I was, blessed for who I am and grateful that the best me is yet to be!

Taking time to reflect and analyze my life, has been transformative in my growth. I am determined to not live my life in vain. I try not to value things as good or bad, but just as experiences that shape my understanding of life …As long as I am open to receiving them.

What was your last reflection about?

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So today was a chill normal day…Wished my brother a happy 26th B-day. Purchased natural hair dolls for my daughters b-day. Worked my lovely 9-5 then headed to my sisters for a quick hair touch up before some spiritual enlightenment (aka bible study).

While I was at my sissies I was talking to my niece about her first day of 1st grade. She was telling me that she was the only brown girl in her class and that she wanted to be white 😦

In a seemingly unsuccessful brief attempt, I tried to explain to her that her skin was beautiful because it has history, it had a story and its a blessing to not look like everyone else.

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It was a huge reminder of how important SELF LOVE education is …and how its never to early to start!

SN: On a lighter note…This post helps me rationalize spending way to much on them gorgeous natural hair dolls for my mini me lbs.

What makes your brown beautiful?? 

First Day Photo

Sooo I started working at my old high school in June and its been crazy surreal having my old teachers as co-workers. It puts time into perspective…Seems like just yesterday I was a student in these same hallways stressin about what I would wear for the first day.

Even though I wasn’t worried about my fit, I did have new hair I was excited about 🙂 I had my sister do these sexy lock extensions I have been wanting forever. I got them as a protective style for my fro I’ve been neglecting. BUT I’m kind of in love and thinking about making them permeant …just a bit smaller.

For everyone that started school today or tomorrow I hope you have a great first week!

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Flowers for Friday

Today was lovely to say the least … for no particular reason really!

Worked a full day, Its still super weirdo to be working at my old high-school. I discovered Monday was labor day! Found out that white people can also be displeased with the fact they also work with almost all white people. (not hate, just appreciate diversity).

My mother invited ACT (my daughters initials) and I to an event called Dane Dances, which is suppose to be live music on the roof top of this beautiful building with an amazballs view…But due to the possibility of rain the event was moved in doors.

WEAK…So we had a photo opp outside and called it a day….quite a lovely day might I add 🙂

Jada Pinkett- Smith: Speaking Truth

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This week I started refining the focus of my blog, which included adding a Lala’s mama page. My daughters name is Alana and bettering myself everyday so that she can have an example to look up to, be proud of and learn from is my mission in life.

One of my inspirations is Ms. Jada Pinkett Smith (the whole Smith family really) because of her poise, wisdom and fearless approach to life. With the Huxtable’s not far behind, the Pinkett-Smith family is truly an inspiring example for me.

Watch this video to see why…No explanation needed….I was sobbing within 1 minute btw.  ENJOY

Be love, seek truth, find purpose

Dream Boards are WACK

My 2012 Vision Boardvision board

If your like me, I was in LOVE with dream boards before I realized they were only part of the process. In order to make a dream reality, we must set goals!

Goals are essentially an action plan to make your dreams come true

I learned this from Ms. Shanell cooper Sykes on her AMAZING “Secrets of Dreamer” 7 day journey. Let her tell you in her own words why exactly vision boards are useless!!!! 

Here are some pics of my F.O.C.U.S board ….make your own so you can Follow On Course Until Successful 🙂

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My Focus board is on top of my 2012 vision board in my room to remind me every morning and night to stay focused!

 Feel free to ask me details about my board or help getting started with your own

30 Day Challenge !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So today I decided I’m staring this 30 Day Challenge! The point is to hold me accountable to being the best example I can be for my daughter. Through my passion for  motivating youth, I stress that knowing and being your best self is the golden rule to life….And uh since thats a pretty strong claim to make, I need to commit to practicing what I preach!

 BOOT CAMP TIME BABY!!!

Pheno’s 30 Day Challenge (P3DC):

  • Setting Goals using the wellness wheel to maintain balance
  • Using life as a classroom
  • Constant assessment
  • Daily reflection
  • Overal evaluation

Thats like the super basic version…But if WHEN completed,  the results will be revolutionary in my life… Especially when I plan to do this every other month for at least the next 365 days! To really understand what Im talking about just get to know me, as I get to know me for the next 30!

P3DC Begins (last nights impromptu video lol) …Don’t judge 🙂

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie

“Awkward Black Girl” Flow

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I was feeling pretty dang on good Monday…Considering the fact that it was my first day back to work after a 10 day vacation.

I felt so good that my inner lyricist was inspired, and as I sported my Afro I was reminiscent of “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl” (Created flow on Monday, “video shoot” was on Tuesday, posted blog on wed…hence no fro)

Yes I Rocks that super natural

I see you checkin my physical

I say I’m more type spiritual, like lyrical for ya melodic soul

I know that I’m eccentric, rebellious, magnificent

Straight lovin this Midwestern chick with southern roots

Huxtables, 2 parents and a stable roof

Ms. Evileen turned to a queen

lookin back the piece’s started con-nec-ting

my past is packed, so do stay tuned

Cuz Please belive Ms. pheno-Me’s dreams will come true!

  Love it or hate it its all for fun, now you know what goes through my mind on my lunch breaks 🙂

Cheya! lol

Let me hear some of you hidden flows… Dont be Scured

Im still getting use to this blogging thing…I think I over think my potential post which results in no post at all 😦 So here is something light for the overdue.

 

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Todays Black Girl who Rocks is Ms. Ella Varner. When asked during an interview about something surprising thing that people don’t know about her she revealed that she had been severely bullied. Saying that “people were mean to me most of my life and told me that I sucked”. Her way of dealing with it was to go home and write songs .

“So Fly” is one of my songs where I wrote about an actual situation where I was never going to get this guy’s attention because I didn’t look a certain way at the time. Since that song I have lost weight but I feel like a song like that, everybody, not just women, can relate to. Feeling like you’re not enough no matter what size you are. So if people picked on me or called me fat, I would just make up songs about it.

For all the brown beauties that felt like their looks feel short! Here’s to you boo, because there’s comfort in feeling like your not alone.

Can you relate??

Much 

PhenoMeJMarie